I'm normally not spontaneous so my recent behavior is out of the norm, but I've read that it's completely normal to do unusual things when you're going through a crisis.
Some people turn to drugs, buying sports cars, moving to a new country, or going on extravagant spending sprees. This kind of reckless behavior is not healthy during a crisis. If anything, it can cause more harm than good in the long run.
Thankfully, not to brag, I've been rather mild with my quarter-life crisis impulses.
Here are a few "impulsive" coping strategies I've adopted since the divorce:
1. Returning to school.
Many of you know that I've been to 3 different colleges over the past 5 years. I've changed my major, run out of money, moved across the country, etc. and all of those things contributed to my demotivation to finish any sort of degree. When Josh told me he wanted a divorce back in December, that was exactly the push I needed to get my ass in gear. In March, I returned to school and have been taking classes online. Only 20 credit hours stand between me and an Office Administration certification.
2. Getting a tattoo.
I'd been wanting to get a tattoo for a long time (since before I turned 18, to be exact), but could never bring myself to spend the money on something so frivolous. Recently however, I sucked it up and got a tattoo that means so much to me. I'll explain the meaning behind it in another post...
3. Adopting a dog.
Since I was a kid, I've wanted a dog. We could never have one because my dad and brother were allergic, but with divorce comes loneliness and I needed a companion. In the course of a week I decided I wanted to adopt a dog, visited the humane society 4 times, and brought home my sweet baby. At the end of May I adopted Chevy from the Champaign County Humane Society. Chevy has been exactly the friend I need. I met a few other dogs, but she and I just clicked. We've been inseparable ever since. She's a 7 year old Chihuahua/Miniature Pinscher mix and weighs 14.5 lbs. She's extremely well behaved, loving, and energetic. Our vet nicknamed her Jumping Bean. :)
What are some impulsive things you've done during a crisis or extreme life change? How did you cope?