Grown-Up Friends

Happy Monday, loves!

Today, I'll be talking about something a little...taboo, if you will. Making friends.

Sometimes life gets busy, especially life with the military. You're constantly moving to a new city, setting up shop, and getting acquainted just to pick up and do it all over again next year. Not to mention the fact that we all have lives, right? We work and we have a home and families that need tending to, so it's difficult to carve out time to build relationships with others.

It's uncomfortable to admit because it seems so silly and unimportant, but it's extremely challenging to make friends as adults.

As kids, it was easy. Children are open-minded and curious. Making friends just came naturally to us then because we were always around the same people and we weren't so afraid to look stupid. Now, there are so many insecurities holding us back that I think we hide behind our busyness to avoid having to step out of our comfort zones, for fear of looking foolish.

I've had my share of life's busy periods and I've hid behind them out of fear. That fear has cost me many opportunities to form relationships with other women, and has, in turn, left me lonely and wanting.

While my husband is a fantastic friend and incredibly patient listener, he can never take the place of a great girlfriend. We all need the kind of friend we can call just to enjoy a chick flick and a glass of wine with. We need the kind of friends who will notice when we're hurting or slacking or just plain lost and who will give us that encouragement (or maybe a swift kick in the rear!) to push us forward. You deserve it. I deserve it. We all owe it to ourselves to cherish a relationship that will last a lifetime.

So the next time someone new asks if you'd like to get coffee or a fellow blogger reaches out to you to start a conversation...don't be afraid to say "yes." Take that as an opportunity to start a great friendship. :)


Spooktacular Swap Goodies!

Happy Monday, lovelies! 
I have truly missed my little bloggy home while I've been away, but I'm back today with some goodies to show off! A few weeks ago I signed up for Jamie's Halloween swap and was partnered with Sara from A Dreamer's World! She's a sweet Minnesotan gal and has great taste in all things October 31st. ;)

Netflix and Sara's package arrived on the same day. How fitting!  
The adorably spooky card Sara wrote me. 
I wonder what haunted treats await...
Sara blessed me with a Halloween cupcake kit, Casper (such a great movie!), ghostly hand towels, a glittery sign that says "Spooky", a notepad, glow sticks, candy corn, ring pops (that turn your mouth black ;) ), fuzzy socks, and caramel apple pops (Josh's favorite Halloween candy). 

This package was seriously so fun to open! Thanks, Sara!


Friday's Letters/The Nail Files


Dear Future Baby Nix, 
You will NEVER be getting a pacifier. Ever.

Dear Eyebrows, 
Pleeeeease grow back already! I'm begging you! I look horrendous.

Dear Second Anniversary Trip, 
I can't wait for you! We can't decide what we're doing for you just yet, but we DO know it involves a fun little road trip.

Dear iPhone 5,
I love you. Your larger, crisper screen, your high-quality camera with panoramic capabilities, your much better speakers. You're just all around awesome. And your skin doesn't look too bad either. ;)

Dear Parks & Rec and Netflix,
THANK YOU! We've been waiting forever for one of our shows to add some new episodes and you've been keeping us good company this week.

Dear Autumn,
It took ya long enough. I'm always so impatient with your horrible punctuality (according to my schedule) and this season was no exception. Next year, show up on time...like, in August.

Dear Three Day Weekend/Chris Columbus, 
I have a feeling you and I are going to get a lot done in our long weekend together. Be prepared.

Dear Husband,
You. Are. Amazeballs. Thank you so much for all of the crazy things you do for me (i.e. trade phones when mine goes berzerk, take it to AT&T to get it fixed, and bring it back to me with a venti pumpkin spice while I'm at the apple orchard with the littles). I have no idea what I'd do without you. Probably die.

Finally grew my nails out again! 
Nicole by O.P.I. {Berry Sweet}


A First Blate

Happy Thursday, everyone!

A week ago Josh and I had the wonderful opportunity of meeting one of my blog besties, Jamie (check out her blog here) and her boyfriend as they drove through central Illinois. They were only staying in town for the evening before heading back to Georgia and we were lucky enough to be included in their road trip festivities.

We kept the night simple and sweet, since Jamie and CB had been driving all day. We met up at our apartment and drove together to downtown Champaign, otherwise known as the U of I campus. After eating a tasty dinner at Chipotle (Jamie's boyfriend had never been!), we walked to Insomnia Cookies - a hole in the wall bakery where they make cookies all.night.long. And get this...you can even get them delivered to your house...like pizza...in the middle of the night. And the cookies are delicious. This place is dangerous.

Jamie and I before dinner. 
After indulging in our warm, gooey dessert we drove to another bakery called Cream & Flutter to pick up some cupcakes (because I'd been told they were irresistible). We saved them for later and headed back to our apartment for drinks and games. Let me tell you...this was SO much fun. I'm pretty sure we laughed enough to burn off those cupcakes we hadn't eaten yet. Jamie and CB are so down to earth and silly, like us. It made the awkwardness of having a complete "stranger" in my home a little less weird. :)

Cream & Flutter 
The red velvet was nowhere near as good as Georgetown Cupcakes. 
We finished our cupcakes (they weren't that good, to be honest) and played a few more games before they headed out to catch up on some much needed rest before their long drive back to Georgia. And as soon as the door closed, Josh turned to me and said, "I wish we had local friends like that."


And that's how you know you've had a successful first blate. :)


Pay It Forward

I saw this thoughtful idea on Stormy's blog (which she found on Katie's blog) and I just had to get involved. 

Here are the details...

Pay it forward. 
  • Within 3 months I’ll create something unique to share with the first three people to comment on this post.
  • But, in order to receive your present you have to play along. Spread the love on your own blog promising to send a little special something to the first three people who comment on your post.
  • You get 72 hours (that's 3 days people) to re-post, or I’ll have to move on to the next person.
  • Please only comment if you’re willing to pay it forward!
Who doesn't love getting mail? Especially when it's "just because" mail! If you love getting goodies in your mailbox and enjoy spreading joy to others, be one of the first 3 to comment below (if you're a noreplyblogger, you're automatically out). 

I love you all and hope you're having a fabulous week. :)

Handmade With Love Review

Good morning, lovelies!

A while back I met a fellow military wife, Jamie from This is Me, Consequently (see her guest post for me here). She's mama to sweet Adelei and lives in Oklahoma with her family. 

I had seen her posts on the military wives blogging Facebook group and thought her Etsy shop, Homemade With Love, was absolutely adorable. She makes gorgeous charms, earrings, tutus, stationary...you name it. So when I saw that she was offering free shipping over Labor Day weekend I just had to order myself one of her gorgeous handmade charms.

I hopped on over to her shop and ordered myself a charm with a pearl and the date that Joshua and I met - June 28, 2009.

Within a day Jamie had the charm made and posted a teasing picture of it on Facebook making me even more excited to receive in the mail!

When I got in the mail a few days later (which is quick shipping if you ask me), Josh ripped it open before I could get to it! When I saw it I knew it was exactly what I was looking for - hand stamped and elegant.

The charm is about an inch long and silver with a bead attached at the top.
The chain is not included but I'm looking to buy one soon so I can start wearing this sentimental beauty.

Jamie also included this sweet note with a discount of 15% off my next purchase!

I always love supporting fellow military wives and I'm glad I was able to support Jamie as well. :)



You're trapped at the bottom of a ditch ten feet deep, and suddenly, someone starts shoveling all of the dirt back in on top of you. You lose sight of the sun and search for a rock or a tree root sticking out of the side of the earth - anything to get you closer to daylight - all the while, dirt and pebbles and grass are showering over you, bruising your forehead anytime you attempt to lift your gaze.

You eventually find a nook in the wall of clay surrounding you and start climbing. You're hopeful as you see the bright sun and blue sky above you, only to realize that the ditch has gotten deeper. Your progress is for not. Higher ground seems unreachable, another world entirely, and you're down in the dark, all alone.

"Escape is hopeless," your conscious repeats. You try to drown it out with thoughts of home, but the chilling voice of sadness overwhelms you.

The tears flow endlessly, filling up the ditch that has confined you. As the salty, muddied water rises, you flounder as you start to believe that your only option is to drown. You struggle against your tears for what seems like hours before you come to the revelation that the waters have reached the top of the ditch, overflowing, and that you've risen with them. 

Sunlight warms your back, drenched and cold, as you climb out. Weak from your endeavor, your legs give way underneath you.

A victory cry escapes your lips as you savor the green grass and blue skies stretching out before you.